How I overcame 43 Fears Paralyzing Fears.

We often don't realize how many fears we have, or how much we allow these fears to run our lives. Because they are uncomfortable. Because they are FEARS. Because it's just so much more comfortable not going there. Because what can we do with them anyway?

What I discovered that day and what remains to be true is this: What we don't own, owns us. And if we want to live a fearless, empowered, free, happy life, we must start owning our shit. Because you don't slay dragons by pretending they aren't in the cave.

Here is a list of fears from my first fear cleanse in January 2013. I share it today for a  few reasons. First, to assure you that you're not more fucked up than I was. Second, to illustrate how severely possible great change is when we are ready to do the work.

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CBS's #14Day challenge: 10 Tips To Support Your Alcohol Cleanse.

An alcohol cleanse is a low pressure way to not only examine how substances may be negatively impacting your life, but also a great way to explore the benefits of sobriety without the long-term commitment. While I recommend doing it for 30 to 40 days to reap real benefits, CBS's #14Days On The Wagon challenge - a call for America to experience life without alcohol for 14 days (October 6 - 19) while learning about addiction and recovery from the experts - is a perfect opportunity to try an alcohol cleanse in the company of a societal movement.

If you are interested in taking up the challenge, are thinking about planning your own alcohol cleanse, or are already in sobriety and just looking for ways to fortify non-drinking you, here are 10 tips to help you make the most of the experience.

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Repost. Sober and Sold-Out: Dance Club In Sweden Cuts Booze, Packs House.

One of my ultimate joys in this world is being on the cutting edge of something. Whether it's a new indie band no one has heard of or some random exotic vegetable that makes your teeth shiny or some new app that brings Philz to your door (WHY haven't they invented this), if it's hip and new and on the brink and not Google Glass, I want it.

And this is exactly how I feel about sobriety. In my opinion, the choice of sober is avant-garde.

This article, Sober And Sold-Out: Dance Club In Sweden Cuts Booze For A Night, is just one more piece in the masterpiece I see coming to fruition: a world where we drop our autopilot. A world where we look within for our confidence and our wildness. A world where we remember the hippest parties and dance until we drop from our pure and vital life force. A world without substance abuse and addiction by choice. A world worth leaving to our future generations.

 

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5 Things I'm afraid to admit.

It's funny the things that we are afraid to admit.

I have no problem telling people about my sex life (or lack thereof), my poop habits, my deepest insecurities. Let's talk about how much  coffee and pastry I consume, how much I struggle with not ending every sentence with the word fuck, or how terrified I am every day I sit down to work on Hip Sobriety. I have this eye fungus from my mascara that won't go away. Sometimes I'm too lazy to brush my teeth. I still text ex-boyfriends and tell them I miss snuggling with them. I look at my ass in mirrors way too much.  I don't have health insurance.

I shamelessly and unapologetically admit all. Weellll, mostly all. Okay fine. All except for how I really feel about addiction, sobriety, recovery, relapse, AA, stigmatization, 12 steps, that I fiercely reject the label addict...

So you know, all. All except the risky things. All except the reasons I started Hip Sobriety in the first place. 

 

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12 Fabulous Things About Sobriety.

Spoiler Alert: Sobriety is Fabulous.

It's the biggest secret to my success quitting. The pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The skinny jeans at the end of the diet. 

If you are thinking about leaving the drink behind, and are worried that you're also leaving behind a best friend, a social life and gaining a new stigma, here are 12 ways to help you reframe it into your fabulous adventure.

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